About Benny

It all started when…

My dad turned on the BeeGees for my mom one late Saturday night…

Fast forward to first grade… I was hospitalized for being a “bad boy”. I was separated from my family for over a month. I was a depressed kid.

As a teen, I had an extremely hard time connecting with other people. I was raised hardcore Catholic and judged other people for their lack of adherence to dogma. I had some attention from girls, but the ones I liked were usually done with me within a week or two. I was a thinker. I was always in my head. I couldn’t vibe with others.

Freshman year I went to another hospital for depression. People at school spread rumors while I was gone. I was prescribed meds. I never took them. I could only dream of what it would be like to be in love with an amazing girl, but I never really got what I was looking for.

I was a virgin until I was 19 years old.

I listened to my parents advice to choose someone from the religion and ended up settling down with a girl I met on a Catholic dating site. We got married off of a long-distance relationship. I hung in there for 10 years after having 4 kids.

Before we got a divorce, I started making changes in my life for ME. I left the church and started training BJJ.

One of the changes I made in my life was the kind of woman I was willing to date. After my divorce, I started dating around. I met a fun girl who chased me into a relationship and I gave it my all. I accepted her flaws, I put her kids to bed while she worked night shift, I practically saved her life on one occasion. Ultimately, nothing was enough. She ended up dumping me. I moved out - I holed myself away for 2 months.

Around that time I decided to figure out how to get her back according to the experts. I read books, read articles, watched YouTube videos. I actually got her back for a little while. It didn’t last because there were too many issues, but by that time I had already well-educated myself on how to be good with women.

I started going out multiple times per week. I fucked shit up a LOT. Every time I went out, though, I reflected on what went wrong and what went right and was HONEST about it all with myself. Each time I went out, I got a little better…a little smoother.

Eventually, I got really good at setting up dates. I got really good at going out, having fun, and being the kind of guy that women wanted. I met several women that were pretty close to what I was looking for, but I knew if I kept going that I would eventually find everything I knew I could have.

After a year and a half of dating around, I met a girl who was everything I always wanted since I was a kid. By that time, I was ready to be with her from an experience and confidence standpoint.

Now, I help single guys do the same thing that I did… Build themselves up to the point where they can authentically be and have what they want in the relationships department.